Most women I meet — in workshops, private sessions, or conversations after my TEDx talk — carry the same quiet ache: a disconnection from their own pleasure. And I believe pleasure unlocks joy and energy.

Women have been taught to perform, to please, to give, to look desirable — but rarely to receive.
Rarely to surrender into our own sensations.
Rarely to say, “I deserve this orgasm.”

That’s why I created the Holiday “O” Package — a luxury sex toy gift set designed to guide women and couples back to their sensual selves.

The Oracle Wand is proof that power doesn’t always have to roar — sometimes it hums. Sleek, affordable, and quietly confident, this wand is a perfect first step into vibration play. At $44.99, it gives you a taste of that deep, resonant wand magic without leaping straight into the industrial-strength territory of the high-end brands.

You may have experienced bliss or clarity in meditation, yoga, or even during a long run. These are altered states of consciousness, flow states, where the mind quiets and the body leads. BDSM can offer that same portal. Through dominance and submission, pain and pleasure, restraint and release, we access something primal and transcendent.

And it’s not just about endorphins or adrenaline. I’m talking about what I believe is a type of consciousness healing, getting our energetics lined up, body and mind, with the potential to heal. In a safe, consensual BDSM scene, there’s a tangible exchange of energy: intention flows, walls lower, and something deep inside can get rewired.

I am obsessed with Babygirl. It’s a rare and delicious treat to see BDSM take center stage on the big screen, but even more thrilling? Watching a woman—middle-aged, confident, and completely unashamed—go after exactly what she wants. And what she wants is fear and humiliation. 

The Later Daters: Netflix’s Bold and Beautiful Dive into Mature Romance

Aimed at showcasing love and romance for the over-55 crowd, this series takes a smart, caring, and refreshingly unfiltered approach to topics often tiptoed around on TV. Someday, I hope Netflix shines a spotlight on the complex, thrilling world of feminine domination. Imagine the possibilities!

Why Hollywood Needs More Houseboys (and Fewer “Babygirls”)

Are you excited about Nicole Kidman’s new kinky movie, Babygirl? I’ll admit, watching one of Hollywood’s most powerful women dive into the world of D/s and my lifestyle on the big screen is tantalizing—a delicious glimpse of kink in the mainstream. But let’s talk about the glaring issue at the heart of this otherwise intriguing film: yet again, the dominant role belongs to a man. 

Amsterdomme shares her insights on what submissive men want and who they are in this quick column.