You may have experienced bliss or clarity in meditation, yoga, or even during a long run. These are altered states of consciousness, flow states, where the mind quiets and the body leads. BDSM can offer that same portal. Through dominance and submission, pain and pleasure, restraint and release, we access something primal and transcendent.

And it’s not just about endorphins or adrenaline. I’m talking about what I believe is a type of consciousness healing, getting our energetics lined up, body and mind, with the potential to heal. In a safe, consensual BDSM scene, there’s a tangible exchange of energy: intention flows, walls lower, and something deep inside can get rewired.

I am obsessed with Babygirl. It’s a rare and delicious treat to see BDSM take center stage on the big screen, but even more thrilling? Watching a woman—middle-aged, confident, and completely unashamed—go after exactly what she wants. And what she wants is fear and humiliation. 

The Later Daters: Netflix’s Bold and Beautiful Dive into Mature Romance

Aimed at showcasing love and romance for the over-55 crowd, this series takes a smart, caring, and refreshingly unfiltered approach to topics often tiptoed around on TV. Someday, I hope Netflix shines a spotlight on the complex, thrilling world of feminine domination. Imagine the possibilities!

Why Hollywood Needs More Houseboys (and Fewer “Babygirls”)

Are you excited about Nicole Kidman’s new kinky movie, Babygirl? I’ll admit, watching one of Hollywood’s most powerful women dive into the world of D/s and my lifestyle on the big screen is tantalizing—a delicious glimpse of kink in the mainstream. But let’s talk about the glaring issue at the heart of this otherwise intriguing film: yet again, the dominant role belongs to a man. 

Amsterdomme shares her insights on what submissive men want and who they are in this quick column.